How many parents or grandparents nervously watch how their precious little one integrates with the other kids in social encounters? It seems that if a child, for whatever reason, feels insecure about themselves, other kids will attune to it and find the most hurtful thing to say.
Some kids can take it in their stride; they have developed a coping behavior, but others—let’s just say they can be cut to the quick. They can be absolutely devastated and become depressed and insecure.
Janelle Cuilla, 31, found her 4-year-old daughter was in the latter category, because her hair was short like a boy’s hairstyle; it just didn’t grow in the normal pattern.
Her mother knew exactly how she felt, as she had gone through the same thing as a child herself.
She really felt for her child, and on one occasion asked her daughter to share what had happened—she started to sob immediately and said her friends wouldn’t play princesses with her—because she looked like a boy.
As time went by, these types of nasty incidents seemed to happen more and more. Her mom would tell her that “Beauty comes from within,” she wrote on LoveWhatMatters, or “Happy girls are the prettiest,” and “The world will love you for who you are and not for your looks.”
Still, it all felt like a lie, as in the real world it did not manifest that way. Her beautiful, sweet little girl at only 4 years old was starting to believe she was ugly.
Mom then had a moment of inspiration—she did know how to make her daughter look special.
Calling on her experience as a hairstylist, together with her daughter they picked out her favorite color and colored her hair pink.
Her daughter couldn’t wait to see herself, and she was just thrilled with the result, as Mom said: “Our eyes met, and she gave me a look that said, ‘Thank you, Mama.’
“I kissed her head and gently tucked her new pink hair behind her ears and whispered, ‘Now you see what I always have … you’re so beautiful.’ I have never seen her smile so big.”
Her 4-year-old became brim full of confidence and began to blossom.
“All day she danced around glowing and singing, ‘I have pretty pink hair!’”
It just shows that really listening to your child can often be the source of inspiration to find a solution to their real issues.
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