The 18th summer: Mom shares bittersweet feeling upon seeing kids’ shoes on front porch

A mom in Florida came home one afternoon after running errands to be met with a pile of shoes on the front porch. Looking at them, reality started to sink in as she realized that she might not be seeing these shoes during the next summer.

In June, Heather Duckworth, of Tampa, was saddened when she returned home to find her house full of teenagers. It’s not because she disliked them. In fact, she loves them all.

THE 18th SUMMERI came home the other day after a long afternoon of running errands and this is what my front porch…

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Then, why did Duckworth feel this way?

She explained in a Facebook post on Love, Faith & Chaos that many of the children will be heading to different colleges as they had just graduated from high school, and this is the last summer she had with them.

ALL ABOUT THOSE SHOESOne week ago today I posted a story about my boys’ 18th summer and feeling sentimental about all…

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“They say you only have 18 summers of childhood with your kids,” Duckworth wrote. “I am on number 18 with mine. This realization tugs at my heart and makes me wonder how 18 summers went by so quickly.”

She added: “I know that after this summer, things will never be the same again. This is a bittersweet part of parenthood . . . this transition from having them home to watching them leave. My head knows this is a good thing, but my heart . . . it just hurts.”

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Despite the sadness, Duckworth had to remind herself not to dwell in sadness.

“I will do my best to choose happiness and joy for this moment right now and not let that dark cloud of sadness swallow me up. Because this moment right now . . . it is really good,” she wrote.

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“So I am going to treasure this summer of the shoes . . . Because I know that all too soon those shoes will be running off exploring the world . . . and my porch will be empty.”

Her Facebook post soon received an overwhelming amount of responses with many mothers sharing similar sentiments with her.

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“It just blows my mind, but apparently a lot of other mamas are feeling this way,” Duckworth told Good Morning America.

“Just looking at their shoes that have been sitting on my porch, it made me sad that they’re all going in different directions. I know some will come home next summer and some won’t.”

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“It’s all good and it’s all part of life,” she added.

And life goes on.


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